Toilets and bathrooms are one of those differences between east and west that neither party is comfortable with how the other handles things. Over the years in my travels through the Asia, Africa and the middle east, not to mention the many outhouses in the north woods of New England have gotten me rather use to situations that may call for improvisation. Despite my comfort with Asian bathroom protocol, I find that it is regularly a source of confusion and comedy.
I didn't know how to make it any more clear, "Umm...you know they ahh don't use toilet paper."
This didn't help any, "Well what do they do? I mean how do you...you know...I don't get it?"
"They use water."
"What do you mean 'they use water'!?"
"You know, they use water. That's why they don't use their left hand for eating."
"Huh? Oh. That's disgusting! You know you're on another planet over there, right?"
Recently a friend of mine in Kathmandu who is putting up a building had some of his workers go on strike. The problem was the bathroom that was being supplied had a western style toilet. I acknowledged confusion, "I don't get it, what was the problem?"
"They think it's disgusting."
"Why?"
"They don't want to sit on something that everyone else's ass has been sitting on."
"Fair enough."
Recently some other friends of ours told us that they had a Pakistani man come to stay with them for a bit and while he was there he asked where the bathroom shoes were. My friend had to inform him that they didn't bother using them (for those who don't know, we don't have sandals for our bathrooms in the west). The man apparently kind of hovered around the bathroom door a bit and abstained from using it. Later on while visiting a place out by New Road he picked up a pair of rubber sandals and was then comfortable using the bathroom. One of my friends laughed a little about the incident, "He probably tells his friends back home that we were disgusting, 'they didn't even have bathroom shoes!"
That's so funny - and so true! My husband, who's nepalese, find it disgusting, that no one use water here.
ReplyDeleteI also have had some almost the most difficult cultural problems, when I got some relatives of my husband from Nepal. The floor of the toilet was full of water, everyday. We also had some conversations about the using the washing machine or the vacuum cleaner... When I went to Nepal, I just realized, why they had difficulties with those basic machines.
You just expect some huge cultural differencies, some religion stuff - but finally find out, that the most basic things in life are the most difficult ones.
An another thing is the food differencies...
Mari, you got me laughing out loud. Yeah basic machine appliances are just not available here even to the people who are fairly well off. You are starting to see washing machines here and there, but with water being scarce on occasion and load shedding up to 18 hours in the dry months, they still aren't all that practical.
ReplyDeleteYes, food is definitely the other gap.